The Root Cause… We need to Come to The Father

Published by Deborah Negron M.A., B.S. Liberty University


Ever find yourself feeling as If you are not valued?

Ever find yourself seeking someone else’s applause to feel that things are going right?

The issue at hand is not as complicated as some may think.

The root cause of many of our feelings of inadequacy and loss stem from a lack of knowledge.

You see, when one seeks the approval of others it’s because one is not secure in who one is.

Our security cannot come from another human being. Our stability and security in who we are comes when we know our Identity in Christ.

When we understand how much he has loved us and how precious we are in His sight, we do not need external applause and acceptance.

He has loved us with an everlasting love. We are his precious children. We are the Beloved of God.

We have been sought, bought and as it were, caught up in to the arms of the one who gave himself an offering and a sacrifice for us.

For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believes in him will not perish but have everlasting life.  John 3:16

When we understand how God has loved us, we do not need the constant voices and opinions of others.

The Bible says we are led by the Spirit of God.

Teach me to do Your will, For You are my God; Your Spirit is good. Lead me in the land of uprightness.
Psalms 143:10

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
Romans 8:14

However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; …
John 16:13

When we have a clear understanding of How much we are loved of God we can move in confidence. We can move with the authority in Christ.

Understanding the enormous value He has placed on us gives us a sense of belonging that fills every void.

I have known the love of the Father for me and it has changed my life. The forgiveness and the mercy of the Saviour who in spite of my rebellion and my rejection of the truth, he patiently waited and led me in such a way that I in due time came to Christ.

God was not disgusted or swayed by my rejection. He was not ange de ed by my rebellion. He was not thrown off by me wayward ideas. He loved me while I was a sinner. He pulled me with chords of love. He orchestrated the very moment he would show me his kindness and grace.

Then when I understood how desperately I needed his love, then with arms outstretched on the Cross he revealed his sacrificial love. In the empty tmb he demo started the power he has to deliver me from death. For the wages of sin is death but he gft of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

God has such a desire to see you and I made right with him that he stopped at nothing. He gave himself. Oh the tenderness of the love of God. The great passion with which he went to he extreme for you and me to be reconciled to him is marvelous. His love was relentless. He chased us, wooed us.

Painstakingly he waits for us to come to the knowledge of the Love of the Father. The Son of God surrendered his life willingly to the will of  the Father.  Jesus took our place as payment for sin. So that we could be made anew.

A love that goes against every negative thought and word that has ever been spoken agaisnt us, is his love.  A love that looks past our faults and saw our need is for us. God’s love is this great love that restores us revives us, directs us and delivers us.

There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8

Your sin and mine cannot keep us away if we surrender to this love. God’s love casts out all fear.

No matter how far you and I may have run from him or how deep in sin we may have gone his love is for you and me.

No matter how destroyed or how broken we may be, He is the Potter, He can make of us new vessels. He can give us a new beginning  and He is our Hope.

Do you know the Love of the Father. The paternity of the Father… He desires to make us anew and wipe away our sins.

He has loved us with an everlasting love.

But now, thus says the Lord, who created you, O Jacob, HERE INSERT YOUR NAME__________…

And He who formed you, O YOUR NAME _________________ “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you.
Isaiah 43:1‭-‬2

In the midst of life and all it has, the good times and the bad times there is a God who knows your name. He has called you, loved you and desires to reconcile with you. 

The Father says,  I will not reject you. Her father will not cast you away. There’s a father who gave his son to have you come into fellowship with him.  Oh, if you only knew how much you are loved. Oh, if you could only understand how his grace is there for you. Come to the father

When we come to him and acknowledge our faults and our desperate need and we are willing to turn away from sin He the Word tells us,

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
I John 1:9

He will reconcile with us. He will make all things new.

The root cause of our wandering, of our feelings of inadequacy and loneliness stem from not truly knowing the one who loves us.

Our need to be approved, accepted and to belong come from not being in close proximity. When we are a far off from the heart of God, we tend to feel withdrawn and needy. We experience an emptiness nothing and no one else can fill.

Many people surround themselves with many people. They appear to have a full life. Sadly deep inside they feel alone in a crowd. They cannot be satisfied by fun times and excitement and being always busy. This is exhausting. 

The only one who can fill the heart of people is the Lord. We need to be close to him to be one with him. We need his Word to guide us, His presence to indwell us and His peace to keep us.

Only Christ can bring us in to this fellowship with the Father.  Money, activities and filling our times with much to do cannot bring us joy.  A good time Dad’s. The music stops, the people leave and the loneliness remains. When we do not truly know the Father.

Jesus is the door to the Father. He is the Bridge that connects us in to sweet fellowship. He indwell us and causes rivers of living water to flood our soul. This joy is not momentary. It is a daily homeostasis. It is a realm of security and hope. It is a place where we need not prove anything to anyone. For to be fully know of the Lord is this place of peace.

Then the storms of life may come and others will marvel at your peace. Then troubles arise and you live in hope regardless of the issues of life.

When we know the Father we feel whole, complete and totally satisfied in God. Fear is gone. We do not feel the need to seek approval or to fit in. We come to understand who we are in Christ.

Our identity in Christ gives us emotional stabilty, spiritual authority and a resolve that no matter what, every thing will work out for our good ( Romans 8:28) because we know who we are in the Son.

We are the beloved of the Father…

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We love Him because He first loved us.
I John 4:18‭-‬19

We can be free and experience the place of being totally loved and cherished of the Lord.

The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.” Zephaniah 3:17

Oh, If you only knew the love of the Father, how much joy and peace would be yours.

Come to the Father. I assure you you will be loved.

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are. The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know Him.”   1 John 3:1

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