The Things We Say…
The Things We Share…
Will We Be Healed or Hindered?
Published by Deborah Negron 11/8/2021
But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Y yo les digo que en el día del juicio todos tendrán que dar cuenta de cualquier palabra inútil que hayan pronunciado. Pues por tus propias palabras serás juzgado, y declarado inocente o culpable.»
San Mateo 12:36-37
So often I am perplexed by the words people say or write when in anger.
People tend to speak or to deliberate on issues when they are not fully informed. Or they make assumptions regarding matters they know nothing about.
In my line of work, a false assumption or a wrong assessment can literally harm the welfare of someone. I must guard my thoughts, my heart and my words in what I say and how I say it. I must be careful how I write and what I convey in my writing.
Too often these days, people speak of the issues they should only bring to the Lord in an I individual and personal prayer.
If the issues are of a deep and harmful nature these are better discussed with a Pastor or a Professional counselor or a Seasoned Saint.
Not everyone is supposed to be a dump site. We cannot speak everything that is in our hearts.
The Bible says…
“The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it? I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give every man according to his ways, According to the fruit of his doings.”
Therefore, my heart and yours can have feelings and reactions that are wrong and may hinder someone if we speak with anger out of hurt.
It is always better to refrain and to have a conversation with the Lord first.
I share this because of my own experiences. I was a battered wife for many years. I did not share what I was suffering with people. This was a time I should have opened my mouth. I did not. Eventually, The truth had to be told. I could not hide my pain any longer.
I spoke to he right people who were able to help me end this toxic relationship. I also went for trauma counseling and learned that I was nobody’s doormat.
So, many people walk through life dumping their issues on others without any consideration for the outcomes.
They want to vent or to discuss matters with others without understanding that we can burden others. They say what they feel, speak negatively about others and dump and dump with out thought to what they are causing. They tear others down in anger and say what they feel at the moment causing great harm to themselves and those who listen to what they say.
It’s high time we measure our words. We will have to give an account to God for what and how we have communicated. We will be held accountable.
Its high time we go to those who can help heal us and not to those who will simply agree with us. When we seek advice it should be from someone who will do what is right even if that is uncomfortable.
When wisdom is sought , healing is found. When God is the center of one’s life, having him to go to and pour out our hearts and sorrows to, is best.
I have found that the closer I am to the Lord the more able I am to deal with the issues of life. The less I am found in His presence the more stress and overwhelming feelings arise.
Healing comes with Proximity to the Prince of Peace.
Too much time is wasted in idle conversations that bring about no change, no positive outcomes and no growth.
Not everyone is equipped to carry our burdens. But we must be humble to receive good counsel. We must guard our hearts and our tongues.
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You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.
Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, Saying to you, ‘Fear not, I will help you.’
However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come.
When we seek him he will lead us. He will surround us with godly and edifying counsel. He will lead us and comfort our hearts and make us whole.
»Nada hay tan engañoso y perverso como el corazón humano. ¿Quién es capaz de comprenderlo? Yo, el Señor, que investigo el corazón y conozco a fondo los sentimientos; que doy a cada cual lo que se merece, de acuerdo con sus acciones.»