Too often we focus on the tragedy, on the poor decision. We focus on what was done to us and on what we failed to do. We look back with regret as if somehow we could change the pastWhat is done is done.
Do how about we take a different focus? How about we allow ourselves the opportunity to move forward? Hos about we look at the fact that there is still breath in our lungs. There is still a sunrise we have just witnessed. There is still a path to walk on. There is still a life to live and new horizons to explore.
Let’s give ourselves the opportunity to be loved by the God who promises to give us a new beginning.
Yes, we have been hurt. Yes life has dealt us a difficult hand. But I implore you. Take a deep breath. Allow your lungs to be filled with oxygen. Stop and consider the path ahead. If you decide to choose Christ, the path will be filled with new challenges, but you won’t walk the path alone. New struggles may come, but you will have the supporting hand of the Almighty God on your side.
You know, there was someone who hurt me so deeply in my life, the feelings of despair blinded me. This person was I’ll and angry and did much to harm me and all because they felt hurt and inadequate and took advantage of my kindness. The choice to stay in the connection was mine. I gave this person power over my life. To the point that I felt trapped.
One day by God’s mercy, someone confronted me with the truth. God is not the author of confusion. You say you believe but as a daughter of the King, why do you walk in bondage. A truth, I had to wake up to. I had placed myself in this cycle of despair by remaining connected to this person. The toxic relationship had driven away even members of my own family. It had destroyed so much of who I was supposed to be. But the day came when I made a decision to stop allowing the toxicity in my life to control me. I decided to part ways with shame and covering up. I decided to be vulnerable and tell the truth.
It was hard, it hurt some. It angered others. People wanted to believe the lies I had been telling. Everything is rosey, nice and fine. Life is grand and I am happy. I had convinced myself that I deserved the abuse and the belittling. I convinced myself that I needed to remain becuae some how God would change the person and then the truth would not have to surface. My life was a house of cards. I had built it tall and elaborately.
This quote is an anonymous quote but it says alot…
The facts are that Truth prevails. Lies are exposed when we surrender to Christ. Lies cannot remain in place when we choose to live in truth. The exposure of my life cost me dearly. But it has been worth the journey. I am free. I am forgiven. I am never looking back at the past with fear. The Lord had mercy and restored me. The Lord even gave me the courage I needed to forgive that person and to forgive myself. God even had mercy on that person too. They will never hurt me again. But they too have been forgiven and taken from this life to heaven.
For yet a little while, and the wicked shall not be: Yea, thou shalt diligently consider his place, and he shall not be. But the meek shall inherit the land, And shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace.
This is true for me. I am able to stand, even when the past is still part of my experience. I am able to stand even if the history is dark.
I am able to stand because I now focus on my present and my future is secure in my Savior’s hands.
I will not be defined by what has occurred in my life. I am defined a a new creature in Christ.
I rest on this…
Wherefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature: the old things are passed away; behold, they are become new. But all things are of God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ, and gave unto us the ministry of reconciliation; to wit, that God was in Christ reconciling the world unto himself, not reckoning unto them their trespasses, and having committed unto us the word of reconciliation.
2 Corinthians 5:17-19
Through my relationship with Christ, I am able to tell others, that a new life is possible. A new hope is sure. I am able to tell you that you can be made a new.
Your trauma and your loss does not define you. Christ Jesus is the giver of life and that abundant life that gives you the wherewithal to make it through.
You will laugh again. You will be set free from the oppression of the past. Give the Lord the opportunity to give you newness of life and be made whole.
It is possible. Just breathe.